First I'd like to wish y'all a Happy Valentines Day... But I have a question in mind (as usual, you'd say:)DO MY BLACK AFRICAN MEN KNOW WHAT VALENTINE'S DAY MEANS FOR A WOMAN?
And just like every time I ask myself a question, I have my own answer. You are free to agree or disagree and if you want to be neutral, you also have the right to choose not to choose but at the end of the day, it's a choice! So, here is my answer: THEY DO, YET THEY DON'T CARE!!! Yes I'm generalizing but if you feel you are an exception, then good for you and your partner.
I think black African men are aware we DEMAND very special attention on Valentine's Day. They know we expect flowers, a gift, or to be taken out as well as a great night of sex. What do they do instead? They spend time with their friends in a bar or they watch soccer, rugby or whatever sport they like, and when they come home, they only expect the sex part to happen. The worst part is, they come up with the most pathetic excuses ever...
The reason why they look for excuses is because they know what it means for us. And every year, we let them get away with this.
Some of them will start looking for trouble the days before D-day just to have a good reason not be around. Others will come up with lines such as:
-"Oh but Valentine's Day is just a marketing day for shops and restaurants"
-"Do I need Valentine's Day to show you love?"
-"Why are you women so pathetically in need of attention???"
What IS pathetic is that we, women, already know all those lines and but... (As always in my "opinion pieces", there is a "BUT"...)
Some black men, exceptions, can be very dedicated to their partners on this special day: from roses to a nice restaurant and gifts, they will just go Santa on their partners. These "exceptions" are those always caring men who give their full attention to their partner. It doesn't happen as a surprise, it is something thy know because it is part of their personality.
Being a Black African man does not mean that you should not pay attention to a day your woman thinks special. As a black African, your culture teaches you that your partner is your wife, your mother, your shoulder and your pillar, therefore you should learn to spoil her, to cherish her desires especially when you know it is important to her that she gets your full attention. Valentines day is special for every women: black, white, yellow, pink or purple so take it into consideration and act accordingly.